I recently presented to a group of professional women about attraction, and how to become more attractive so that they could create the kind of amazing relationships that every woman dreams of. Throughout the course of the evening the theme of luck kept coming up. I heard things like, “Women who get those kinds of guys are just lucky,” or “She was just in the right place at the right time.” For people who don’t have the kind of relationship they want – whether married or single – this theme of luck is quite common.
Unfortunately, it’s also totally off-base for creating a spectacular love life.
Luck, at it’s core, is really about being powerless. It’s another way to say, “I don’t have the ability to create what I want, so I’m going to hope that fate, God, the Universe, etc, randomly sends me what I want.” Did you notice how the core thought there is a lack of belief in oneself? If you look at most people who are single-and-stuck, the number one reason why they’re stuck is a lack of belief in themselves and their ability to attract what they want.
As a result, these people turn to any and every available source of finding someone. Over time they either settle for something far less than they want, or give up entirely, resigned to never having what they truly want in their romantic lives.
Similarly, couples who are struggling often end up in a holding pattern, where one person hopes that the other will “come around,” or that things will just get better on their own, or after some future event takes place. This too is an abdication of power, a resignation that there is nothing the person can do to reach their goal of having a joyful and love-filled relationship.
The simple truth is that luck has absolutely nothing to do with attraction. In fact, the mentality of “luck” is the polar opposite of the kind of mindset one needs to have in order to become truly, powerfully attractive.
Think about it another way. If you’re relying on luck, or hope, you’re likely to be waiting a very, very long time. Because the kind of person that you want to be with probably doesn’t want to be with someone who approaches life in such a powerless way.
Relationship advisors the world over know that the best way to improve your love life is to DO something about it. Here’s the catch though, you have to be willing to do something other than what you’ve been doing up until now, because clearly what you’ve been doing isn’t working! Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. If you haven’t stretched out of your comfort zone lately to try something new, you’re probably bordering on romantic insanity!
Letting go of luck requires taking ownership of your own relationship results thus far, and a firm and clear resolution to start changing both who you are, what you do, and how you do it.
If you’re ready to take back your power, become fully attractive, and do something totally different, check out my Intimacy Index Assessment. It will show you just how ready you really are to have the kind of love that you want, provide tools to make any necessary changes, and will give you a totally different way to approach love and romance.